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How do I build a culture where people take ownership and tell me when something is going wrong?

How do I build a culture where people take ownership and tell me when something is going wrong?

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When should I design based on intuition vs. data?

When should I design based on intuition vs. data?

Design
I sell used phones on facebook marketplace and my listing photos look like everyone else's

I sell used phones on facebook marketplace and my listing photos look like everyone else's

Sales
My shoulder's been aching for a week but I don't want to lose my lifting streak

My shoulder's been aching for a week but I don't want to lose my lifting streak

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I'm the best man and can't decide if the toast is for him or the whole room

I'm the best man and can't decide if the toast is for him or the whole room

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I open social media and immediately feel like I'm losing at life

I open social media and immediately feel like I'm losing at life

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Doctor says my numbers are the best they've been in a decade. I'm 52 and I feel like I got a second shot at this. I want to make the back half of my life the good half

Doctor says my numbers are the best they've been in a decade. I'm 52 and I feel like I got a second shot at this. I want to make the back half of my life the good half

I've been on fifteen first dates this year and not one second date. I make six figures, I have a good group of friends, and I still go home alone every weekend. Is there something I'm missing?

I've been on fifteen first dates this year and not one second date. I make six figures, I have a good group of friends, and I still go home alone every weekend. Is there something I'm missing?

I missed the game-winning free throw in the district final last week. My teammates said it's fine but I can still hear the crowd groan. I have a bigger game in ten days and I can't shake the feeling that I'll choke again

I missed the game-winning free throw in the district final last week. My teammates said it's fine but I can still hear the crowd groan. I have a bigger game in ten days and I can't shake the feeling that I'll choke again

I run a small candle business and my instagram has 400 followers after a year of posting three times a week. My cousin started a similar account four months ago and already has 3,000. I don't know if I'm using the wrong hashtags or if reels are the whole game now

I run a small candle business and my instagram has 400 followers after a year of posting three times a week. My cousin started a similar account four months ago and already has 3,000. I don't know if I'm using the wrong hashtags or if reels are the whole game now

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I freeze up and go blank when I meet new people at networking events.

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Vanessa Van Edwards

Behavioral investigator · Founder of Science of People

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Freezing at a networking event is usually a planning problem, not a personality problem. Your brain just doesn't have a script for the first ten seconds.

Robert Cialdini

Psychology professor, Arizona State · Author of Influence

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Networking freeze usually comes from self-focus, not social failure. Prepare one genuine question and one small piece of value you can offer. That shifts your script from “Will they like me?” to “How can I be useful to this person?”

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I freeze up and go blank when I meet new people at networking events.
Freezing is usually a planning problem, not a personality problem. Before the event, write down three openers and three bridge questions, then lower the stakes by practicing on baristas and neighbors first.
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