Find people who've been there

Describe your situation. Get their perspective.

Ask people who've lived it

Ask a quick question

Every screen in my app uses a different shade of blue and I don't know how that happened

Every screen in my app uses a different shade of blue and I don't know how that happened

Design
My son stopped talking to me after the divorce and I don't know why

My son stopped talking to me after the divorce and I don't know why

Parenting
I mess up once at work and suddenly I feel completely worthless

I mess up once at work and suddenly I feel completely worthless

Self Esteem
I've wanted to start a podcast for a year but I don't know if anyone would listen

I've wanted to start a podcast for a year but I don't know if anyone would listen

Marketing
How do I hold my own around people who have more money, status, or influence than me?

How do I hold my own around people who have more money, status, or influence than me?

Social
The champion loved the demo, then went silent when it reached procurement

The champion loved the demo, then went silent when it reached procurement

GTM & Revenue

Ask the experts

Ask about real life

We always said we'd get married. Then he doubled his income and suddenly wants to wait a little. When I out-earned him early on, I never once hesitated

We always said we'd get married. Then he doubled his income and suddenly wants to wait a little. When I out-earned him early on, I never once hesitated

I've tracked every workout for three months, hit the gym five days a week, and cut soda completely. The scale hasn't moved and my clothes fit the same. What am I missing?

I've tracked every workout for three months, hit the gym five days a week, and cut soda completely. The scale hasn't moved and my clothes fit the same. What am I missing?

I'm answering emails at midnight and waking up at 5am to do it again, six days a week for the last four months. Quitting isn't an option, my visa is tied to this job. What helps when walking away isn't a choice?

I'm answering emails at midnight and waking up at 5am to do it again, six days a week for the last four months. Quitting isn't an option, my visa is tied to this job. What helps when walking away isn't a choice?

Our strongest designer produces excellent work, but three teammates have stopped bringing them ideas because they dismiss everyone’s input

Our strongest designer produces excellent work, but three teammates have stopped bringing them ideas because they dismiss everyone’s input

More on Delphi

The experience of one life should help another.

A Delphi is an interactive digital mind, built from a real person's knowledge, content, and experience.

Discover perspectives

Describe your situation.
Get their perspective.

Find people whose experience relates to what you're figuring out. Explore perspectives from their digital minds, grounded in their own work, ideas, and experiences.

I freeze up and go blank when I meet new people at networking events.

Top perspectives

Vanessa Van Edwards

Behavioral investigator · Founder of Science of People

CaptivateCuesScience of People

Freezing at a networking event is usually a planning problem, not a personality problem. Your brain just doesn't have a script for the first ten seconds.

Robert Cialdini

Psychology professor, Arizona State · Author of Influence

InfluencePre-SuasionCialdini Institute

Networking freeze usually comes from self-focus, not social failure. Prepare one genuine question and one small piece of value you can offer. That shifts your script from “Will they like me?” to “How can I be useful to this person?”

Make it a conversation

You can ask
“What about me?”

Go beyond reading or watching. Ask their Delphi a question, bring your own context, and follow the ideas that matter to you.

Explore a different angle, ask why, or dig into how something applies to your situation.

Vanessa Van Edwards

Their Delphi, answering in their voice

I freeze up and go blank when I meet new people at networking events.
Freezing is usually a planning problem, not a personality problem. Before the event, write down three openers and three bridge questions, then lower the stakes by practicing on baristas and neighbors first.
Suggested

Share what you know

Someone could use
your perspective, too.

Bring together your writing, videos, podcasts, and other knowledge to create your digital mind.

Share one link so others can ask questions, explore your ideas, and discover what's relevant to them.

All responses are grounded in your expertise, and all data is owned by you.

Your knowledge

Your Delphi

YD

Your Delphi

A digital version of you

One link to share

Anyone can open it and ask your Delphi questions.

You don’t have to figure everything out alone.

Learn more about Delphi