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My shoulder's been aching for a week but I don't want to lose my lifting streak

My shoulder's been aching for a week but I don't want to lose my lifting streak

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My best performer has been missing deadlines for two months straight

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My best friend and I haven't spoken in two months since our fight and neither of us has apologized

My best friend and I haven't spoken in two months since our fight and neither of us has apologized

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How do we pay down technical debt when every sprint is full of urgent features?

How do we pay down technical debt when every sprint is full of urgent features?

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My son stopped talking to me after the divorce and I don't know why

My son stopped talking to me after the divorce and I don't know why

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I'm applying to college and don't know which schools I'd be happiest at

I'm applying to college and don't know which schools I'd be happiest at

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I've got a business podcast idea and enough stories from ten years in recruiting to fill 50 episodes. My friend says video podcasts are the only ones that grow now and audio-only is dead. I don't want to spend six months building something nobody watches

I've got a business podcast idea and enough stories from ten years in recruiting to fill 50 episodes. My friend says video podcasts are the only ones that grow now and audio-only is dead. I don't want to spend six months building something nobody watches

We’ve interviewed 30 potential customers who all called our idea valuable, but none has agreed to pay for the prototype

We’ve interviewed 30 potential customers who all called our idea valuable, but none has agreed to pay for the prototype

My bakery needs a second oven to keep up with orders, it's $18,000 I don't have. A bank offered me a loan at 9%, my sister says just save up for another year. I can't tell if the growth is worth the debt

My bakery needs a second oven to keep up with orders, it's $18,000 I don't have. A bank offered me a loan at 9%, my sister says just save up for another year. I can't tell if the growth is worth the debt

Doctor says my numbers are the best they've been in a decade. I'm 52 and I feel like I got a second shot at this. I want to make the back half of my life the good half

Doctor says my numbers are the best they've been in a decade. I'm 52 and I feel like I got a second shot at this. I want to make the back half of my life the good half

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I freeze up and go blank when I meet new people at networking events.

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Vanessa Van Edwards

Behavioral investigator · Founder of Science of People

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Freezing at a networking event is usually a planning problem, not a personality problem. Your brain just doesn't have a script for the first ten seconds.

Robert Cialdini

Psychology professor, Arizona State · Author of Influence

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Networking freeze usually comes from self-focus, not social failure. Prepare one genuine question and one small piece of value you can offer. That shifts your script from “Will they like me?” to “How can I be useful to this person?”

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I freeze up and go blank when I meet new people at networking events.
Freezing is usually a planning problem, not a personality problem. Before the event, write down three openers and three bridge questions, then lower the stakes by practicing on baristas and neighbors first.
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