“I would tell her once, plainly, and then let her decide. Real friendship is not standing by while someone walks into a mistake you can see, but it is also not mistaking your opinion for her life. Say what you see, tell her you love her either way, and do not make the wedding your battleground.”

“Yes, you say it. A real friend tells the truth before the wedding, not after the divorce. But say it with evidence, not insults, and be prepared to lose the friendship because she may not want to hear it.”

“I have been the person holding the bride's bouquet while my gut screamed, and I learned that scumbag lands as an attack on her judgment, not a gift.”

“I’ve watched a lot of men try to talk a woman out of a decision she’s already made, and it almost always backfires. If she hasn’t asked for your read on him, saying it now won’t protect her, it’ll just make you the enemy she defends him against.”

“Say it once, directly, and without trying to change her mind. I learned that the people I love don't need my approval; they need to know I will still be there if the warning I gave them comes true.”

“I said it once, and it cost me almost everything: my job, my health benefits, my place in the world. But I would still speak, because silence in the face of real harm is its own kind of sentence.”