“Accepting how you look is not about reaching a point of constant self-love. For me, it began after anorexia and thirteen surgeries, when I finally stopped trying to take up less space and started noticing what my body had survived. I do not edit my body in photos because any alteration would tell her she is not already enough.”
“I spent sixteen years making myself throw up every day because I thought my body was the problem, and the real work started when I stopped trying to fix it and started asking why I believed I wasn't worthy. Now I see acceptance as the door, love comes after, and movement is one way I came home to a body I used to punish.”
“Accepting how you look starts with noticing whose voice is actually speaking when you judge your reflection. I ask clients to get curious about the stuck feeling: if it had a shape or color, what would it be. That small shift moves them from self-criticism toward seeing what their body image is really made of.”
“Seven years ago I stood in front of a mirror, broken and ashamed, and told myself I had to learn to love the woman looking back. I did not fix my body; I stopped letting comparison run the witness inside it. Now I see the body as the home, not the problem.”
“I don't ask clients to love how they look. I have them say, This is what my body looks like right now, and move the whole conversation to how they feel. The irony is that once they stop chasing a look, the body often changes anyway, and by then they don't care because they're finally home in it.”